Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Tres Cool new deal


Homeschooling families will more than understand why this is going on this blog and not, say, Hearth and Home....homeschooling is living with children, not from 8 to 3, not a few days a week, but always and forever, and all of us know how much the home life has to do with our days...with no janitorial crew, no recess to speak of, no lunch lady or vacations, the running of the home is a massive part of it all, and that is both normal and good. I am glad my kids are not separated into some strange place where "Somebody" cleans it all for them after hours, "Somebody" gives them food through a little opening in the wall, and "Somebody" chooses everything for them, and they have no idea why or how. Sounds like a recipe for yet another generation of people who don't know how to do anything and have to hire out, order out, etc...

We have finally come up with a wonderful new ritual, or technique, if you will. It is only day three, so I feel a little hasty posting about it already, but I am so proud and excited that I simply must report!
Monday morning I told the kids that we were going to try an experiment. I told them that nobody (meaning, Mommy pretty much) was going to clean or tidy ANYTHING until 4 o'clock. I told them over and over that I expect cheerfulness when 4pm arrives, and if I heard one sigh, huff, or puff, then there would be some loss of privileges, namely no video games. I gave them many many heads-ups during the day, "Three hours till we clean!"...."27 minutes until cleaning time!".......but I must admit, I was getting worried. What if I really just sat and played with and enjoyed my actual children all day, and then it all backfired, and they didn't clean, and they fussed and I screamed and the whole place was a disaster......but we waited it out until 4:00.

Right at 4, with clock-obsessed Mickey chiming in, and me steeling myself with the best faux-confidence ever, I called out "Its 4 o'clock!!! time to clean!!!" We all held hands in a little circle (I am not kidding) and I said "Lets not rush, lets not freak out. If you want a task, then just ask Mama. If you want to just pick up stuff and put it where it goes, then go ahead"......and I went in the kitchen, locked the baby gate behind me, and started in on my dishes.

Some kids wanted a task, and I said stuff like "Put all the garbage in the garbage cans!", "Pick up all the blankets and put them on my bed", "Bring me all the cups".....some kids wanted to just go do their own thing. Casey is an awesome, awesome vacuumer, and he got the floors cleaned with the hose attachment in no time.

I washed the dishes and cleaned the countertops and before I could even sweep the floor, they were telling me they were done. I didn't believe them, so I handed out even a few more rather random chores from behind the gate like "Polish the bathroom faucet with those wipe things" and "Swiffer the windowsills".......then they were done again! I put down my broom to come see the house. It was completely clean, every single room. The time was 4:27, and we had an enormous group-hug! I gushed on and on about what little tornadoes they were--we all were--and what a wonderful new life we could have if Mama could really be with them all day and if Daddy could play with them all night. (seriously impossible before!)

We did it again yesterday, and the house was SO messy from crafts and toys and such that I told them that it was totally ok if it took more than 27 minutes.........but I kid you not, it took 18 minutes this time!

We feel like geniuses, both proud and free. Daddy was ecstatic when he got home, and they did play all night Monday while I was at work, and last night we all had a linger-y dinner and then did a bit of Wii bowling before a very smooth bedtime...Casey at 7:30, Charlie at 7:45, Greta and Mickey at 8, but they get to watch a movie in the "kid's lounge". Tuesday is my night off work and so is like Mama+Dada's date night, really, and so we watched a funny movie of our own, and fell asleep on the couch. Hot date, huh? LOL it was actually really great to be off of my feet, unlike at work, and to lounge my pregnant tired legs up on my left side in comfy clothing, talking to my favorite person in the galaxy.
We walked through the clean hall to our clean bedroom around 2am, and slept soundly until 6:15 when the alarm and Charlie both called to us that Wednesday was here.

11 comments:

Barbnocity said...

Very cool!! I keep telling myself we are going to do something like this, too...we will...it will happen...

ttys

Barb :)

Rixa said...

Great idea...now my only problem is I need to wait until Zari is old enough to help me out! Right now I can clean for about 5 minutes, sometimes less, before she wants me to pay attention to her again.

Kelley said...

Fantastic idea! I think we'll have to try it at the new place. New place - new routine. I am so done with cleaning all morning, and then being mad at the kids all day because they make messes and don't clean them up. Way cool idea!

Housefairy said...

Seriously, it rules....it is now 2:40 in the afternoon and you cannot even see the floor. Popcorn, cars, glue sticks, dice, coins, apples, dirty socks, blocks, books, sippy cups, construction paper, a brown apple with one bite out of it (Charlie!), blankets....and I am not stressing about it! We have been reading and solving mysteries all day, making stuff, and I have been there with them the entire time. We only cleared the breakfast and lunch table. So far so good...

Hawksbill said...

Yes, a very cool idea. I like it a lot! We'll have to steal that one from you. :)

Housefairy said...

...It worked again! 31 minutes, whole house. They finished everything before I was even 1/2 way done with the dishes...I am really happy about this. We are taking small steps to get a real routine around here (that got obliterated when I got pregnant/started working) before the new baby comes. Its SO fun not to putz around all day "cleaning"!

Michelle said...

Go mom! We did a similar thing when Stephen, Emma and Hugh were little...it worked really well. Now that they are almost grown up people ( at 19, 16 and 13 ) with only Mary still just 6; it's even easier to keep everything together. Stepen is in college but living at home and working so, he's not here as much as we're used to but, when he is home, we have a nice schedule of chores for him as well as "interactives" with his siblings and family. We weren't really into the idea that "well, he's off at school....just let him go.' NOT so fast......

This winter has actually been the coziest, homiest, nicest homeschooling winter in years for us; except for Hugh's illness but, I've done fewer births and I'm in school so, I feel more balanced and I'm taking complete advantage of my menopausal fatigue to sleep and sleep and sleep; early to bed and early to rise has wonderful side effects-- namely, happiness, efficiency and calm! I love your blog, they are all wonderful but this one always manages to make me smile!

sneakmastergeneral said...

What a fantastic idea! I can't wait until mine are a little older and can help, or at least one of them. I can get the almost 3 year old to help pick up cups and throw things in the trash...I think the boy has some of my OCD, he's very neat...except when he colors on the walls, HA! You're awesome.

Kelley said...

Hey, we're doing something like this in the new place, and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE how the house is clean every night before Daddy gets home! Great idea, Joy!

Judit said...

Hey Joy, cool, so many blogs by Joy to enjoy! What took me so long to check this one out? Anyway, you guys are positively geniuses. I am so impressed. I think I'll love reading this one because honestly, I can't even imagine homeschooling and you make it sound so much fun!

Sarah said...

This sounds really neat. I am considering homeschooling and am soaking up any ideas that seem to work to see if I can put enough together to feel like it's something I can do. I'm really enjoying your blogs!

Sarah
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